So college rolls around and I start actually having a somewhat active social life (like parties, I had a social life back home but it was different more chill hanging out less party hanging out) Of course with parties came alcohol. As I predicted I had no trouble saying no to the smelly gross stuff that makes people act like idiots.
But then as the weeks rolled around and party after party happened I realized saying no to drinking wasn't my problem. I needed to learn how to say no to the parties. I always have a insecurity that if I don't do everything that I am invited to I will be considered anti social or worse I will miss something. Which leads me to try and do everything. This was never a problem before because there wasn't that much going on. Here thats different, the swimmers believe it or not have a very active social agenda (that changes once season starts) and like to party. So far I have gone to everything. It was only after I went to a fraternity party that I had mis-givings about did I realize something. You know the stereotype of the college fraternity those awful drunk, drug giving parties. Well my mis-givings were valid. I was very uncomfortable, a lot of people were drunk and the music was loud. And I sat watching everything feeling very overwhelmed.
Which is why I left about a hour in.
That is what I learned this weekend. Listen to your instincts. They usually are correct. There will be other social gatherings and other parties that you can go to.
Those are my words of wisdom for the day.
Just SAY NO (to drugs, alcohol, parties, anything involving humans, fun things). Just kidding.
